Wednesday 19 September 2012

The Lucky 13s Take Over, Week 3: Mindy McGinnis - Sex in YA - You Know You Want It

While I'm in the writing cave finishing my WIP, some of my fellow Lucky 13s are stepping in to guest blog for me. This week, I'm handing over to Mindy McGinnis. 

"... and you know you want me to give it to you." Biff's words to Lorraine in Back to the Future had me totally flummoxed for a looong time. What was it? How could Biff give it to her? And why was he trying to touch her panties in the front seat of the car during the dance? Why was Lorriane talking about Marty's Calvin Klein's in their meeting scene? What's the fixation with underwear?

I remained in the dark about these topics for awhile. I knew sex existed, but I didn't have the whole Tab A, Slot B mechanics of the dance figured out until er... well... later. Not so today's teens. Blame it on the media, blame it on the culture, blame on parenting, blame it on the rain (how many 80's references can I get in here?) Let's just set blame aside and focus on the fact that it simply IS. My opinion - kids aren't having more sex, or earlier than before - it's simply no longer a taboo subject.

So, because it's not taboo, because they do know the mechanics - what do we write about it? Do we write about it?

It's up to you. I've read some really graphic sex scenes in YA. I don't find them offensive. I have a hard time believing there's anything in there that the average teen hasn't already been exposed to. However, I do monitor content in the books that I give out to junior high students - not necessarily because I think they're about to have their minds deflowered - but because their parents DO believe that, and they might have my ass in a sling. And I need my ass. I use it everyday.

My own philosophy runs thus; I have always believed that less is more. Why does Jaws work? 'Cause you don't see the shark. I typically refrain from physically describing my characters because I want my readers to fill in their hot guy, their hallway bitch, themselves as the MC. So when it comes to those backseat moments, or when my MC invites a guy over to "watch a movie," (yeah right, I have yet to see the end of Ferris Bueller's Day Off), I want them to fill in slot B on their own. Something happened. Unless it's imperative to the plot, does it matter what? Do they need the description? Do they need to see that shark?

Here's a great example from Harry Potter & the Order of the Phoenix: (I know you're saying "What!  An HP makeout scene?") Oh yeah... it's there. A meeting of Dumbledore's Army has just ended. Everyone has filed out except for Cho and Harry, who are kinda hanging out there in the Room of Requirement... and who didn't guess that thing had multiple uses? pg. 456-457:

"I really like you Harry."
He could not think.  A tingling sensation was spreading throughout him, paralyzing his arms, legs and brain.
She was much too close.  He could see every tear clinging to her eyelashes...
*PAGE BREAK*
He returned to the common room half an hour later to find Hermione and Ron..."

Hey! Wait a second!! Half an hour later? Gee... what were they doing? Now, obviously Rowling had a duty to her young readers to keep it clean, and to her older readers to keep it interesting. Not so for all writers, certainly. But I think it's a good example of letting the reader take it to their own level - of comfort, of familiarity, without being told what happened.

My own writing gives a little more detail than this highly gratuitous page break, but you get the idea.

One last thought - what do you want your readers to take away from your book? I haven't read Breaking Dawn, but I know that Edward and Bella break the headboard, cause that's all anyone wanted to talk about. Other than that - zero clue what the plot is about.

I'd love some feedback! What are your thoughts? Show the shark, or keep him underwater?  :)

Mindy McGinnis is a YA author and librarian. Her debut dystopian, NOT A DROP TO DRINK, will be available from Katherine Tegen / Harper Collins Fall, 2013. She blogs at Writer, Writer Pants on Fire. You can also find her on Twitter and Facebook.

14 comments:

  1. I so agree - often the hints and giggles are far more erotic than a description of the plumbing.

    And I can't see the point of writing for teens and pretending they don't have sex. But I do have boundaries - it needs to be consensual, and loving, or the Bad Guy (or Girl?) needs a serious come-uppance and a lesson in respecting those s/he takes to bed. And no bonking children or animals, obviously.

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    1. I love your addendum there at the end, Jo :) Well, obviously.

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  2. I don't write YA, but I have the same feelings with adult fiction -- not whether or not it's appropriate for the audience, but how much is enough, just right, too much, etc. It's always a questionmark in my mind because as a reader, often less really is more. For me I always base my decision on what best moves the story forward. And if that's showing the shark? So be it.

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    1. Agreed. It all depends on how the writer is executing the scene. If it's an all-out touthy mouth grin... well, that's fine, as long as you do it right!

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  3. I like the shark nibbling just beneath the surface. Less is definitely more, when it comes to sex. Too much description is tiresome.

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    1. Too much description makes it seem like a how-to manual, IMO. It's like... yeah OK, I kind of know this already, thanks though, Health Class.

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  4. I think it depends on the book, and the lead up to such scenes. You don't want to blue ball anyone, but you don't want to have it come of out nowhere, either. Great post, Mindy!

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    1. Oh Elsie... I'm not sure I can count the ways I love you. Wait! DON'T MISINTERPRET!! ; )

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  5. Less is more--it's SO true. Describing every movement and breath can often take the sexiness OUT of a scene. I can't remember who said it, and I'm probably butchering the saying, but I've always believed in the idea that good writing is all about knowing what to leave out, not what to put in.

    And for what it's worth, this has nothing to do (in my mind) with "appropriateness" or audience age. It just has to do with good writing.

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    1. Agreed, Megan. Just like any good conversation, It's about knowing when to stop talking.

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  6. When reading of intimacy I prefer clues and to fill in the blanks myself. The media is so sexualised already I find myself tuning out rather than getting it on! I agree with Liz, I want clues and to know the shark is just below the waterline...the rest I can imagine!

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    1. Definitely - it's the same with horror novels, I think. Anything that's describe to me is nowhere near as terrifying as what I can come up with myself. Same with erotic moments.

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  7. Totally agree with the less is more comment, sometimes being too graphic loses the intimacy. That being said, sexual awakening is part of being a young adult, so I think its perfectly fine to include it in a YA story.

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    1. Yep, it's a fine line YA writer's have to tread - keep the hot-blooed readers engaged, don't piss off the parents :)

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